52ND ANNUAL CRIME PREVENTION GUIDE
POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 1 Thank You PO BOX 88, EASTERN PASSAGE STN. MAIN, EASTERN PASSAGE, NS B3G 1M7 PHONE: (902) 468-7555 EMAIL: PANS@APA.ONE PANS Office Staff David W. Fisher CEO Brigitte Gaudet Controller PANS BOARD OF DIRECTORS Hello. On behalf of the members of the Atlantic Police Association/ Police Association of Nova Scotia, I would like to say a heartfelt thank you to the businesses and members of the public for their generous support of our organization. The Atlantic Police Association very much appreciates your generosity. It is because of your interest and contributions, through donations, that awareness is raised with our annual Community Crime Prevention Guide. As well as the many local charities that have been supported over the last 50 plus years. Our hope and best wishes for a happy and safe 2024 goes out to everyone. Special thanks goes out to Fenety Marketing for their diligent efforts in making the annual guide a reality. Thank you all, Harvey T. Timmons President APA/ PANS President: Harvey Timmons 1st Vice-President: Steve Shipley - Lunenburg County 2nd Vice-President: Dale Johnson - Charlottetown Secretary/Treasurer: Mike Goss - Kings County Area Director: Trevor Lamont - Colchester County Area Director: Brian Gairns - Cumberland County Area Director: Chris Irving - Pictou County
2 POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA Tel: (902) 423-0787 Fax: (902) 423-2460 Web: www.atlanticlobster.ca 209 Aerotech Drive, Unit 10-12 B Goffs, NS B2T 1K3 Canada
POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 3 • ALS Society • Atlantic Women in Law Enforcement Conference • Canadian Red Cross Friendly Calls Program • Charlottetown Police Choir – Carolling for Seniors • First Responders’ Wellness Symposium • Heart’s Haven Memorial Park Go Fund Me • Holiday Heroes • Saanich & Victoria Police Go Fund Me COMMUNITY DONATIONS 2022 The Police Association of Nova Scotia supported communities across the province through a variety of programs and activities, including donations to the following: PANS donates to Canadian Red Cross’s “Friendly Calls Program” Proceeds from our 52nd Annual Crime Prevention Guide on Senior’s Abuse Awareness have allowed the Police Association of Nova Scotia to make a donation to Canadian Red Cross’s “Friendly Calls Program”. The Canadian Red Cross Friendly Calls program helps address issues of isolation and loneliness which have become heightened during the COVID-19 pandemic. The program pairs a trained Red Cross volunteer or staff member with an adult who is feeling isolated or lonely, who may have limited social and family connections, or who feels they could benefit from more social interaction. At a regularly scheduled time, Red Cross personnel call the people with whom they are paired for a social chat, connecting them, if needed, with resources available in their community. The Friendly Calls program is free and is available to any adult who feels they could benefit from more social interaction. Thank You
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 5 From the Publisher “Providing quality, professional marketing and fundraising services on behalf of high-profile, non-profit organizations.” www.fenety.com On behalf of the Police Association of Nova Scotia, I would like to take this opportunity to sincerely thank each and every advertiser and sponsor of our Annual Telephone Appeal, allowing this unique publication to be distributed throughout the community, to schools, libraries and public facilities and also available online at www.pansguide.com, making it easily accessible to everyone. PANS publishes an Annual Crime Prevention Guide to educate the public on important community concerns. This 52nd Annual Crime Prevention Guide targets the subject of Senior’s Abuse Awareness and is designed to help educate and promote the public’s role to identify and address financial, mental or physical abuse of Nova Scotia’s seniors. This publication is made possible as a result of financial support from residents and business representatives throughout the Province. With their generous support for the activities of the Police Association of Nova Scotia, PANS is also able to give back to their communities through donations to various local charities and programs including a special donation this year to the Canadian Red Cross’s “Friendly Calls Program”, that has a Red Cross staff member or volunteer call seniors at home to help address issues of isolation or loneliness which became heightened during COVID. We welcome comments or suggestions regarding these publications and always look forward to speaking with you each year during our Annual Telephone Appeal. Respectfully, Mark T. Fenety President Fenety Marketing Services
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 7 52nd Annual Crime Prevention Guide TABL E OF CONTENTS Message from PANS President . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1 PANS supports Canadian Red Cross’s Friendly Call Program . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .3 Message from the Publisher . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .5 Amherst Police Department - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9 Annapolis Royal Police Department - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .15 Bridgewater Police Service - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .17 Charlottetown Police Services - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .21 Kentville Police Services - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .23 New Glasgow Regional Police - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27 Truro Police Service - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .29 Westville Police Service - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39 SENIOR ABUSE AWARENESS What is Senior Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .41 A closer look . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .43 Physical Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .45 Sexual Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .47 Emotional Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .49 Financial Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .51 Neglect Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .55 Institutional Abuse or Neglect . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .57 What you can do if you suspect abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .59 How can you identify and help older adults at risk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .61 What you can do to keep yourself safe from abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .67 Help is Available . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .69 Senior Abuse and the law . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .71 Violence against seniors and their perceptions of safety in Canada: Highlights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .74 Reports reveal 46 abuse cases over 2 years in Nova Scotia nursing homes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .77 Family speaks out about alleged neglect at N.S. long-term care facility . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .83 Nursing home abuse cases pile up, leaving heartbreak and betrayal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .85 Case Studies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .91 Where to find help . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .103 Need help but don’t know where to start? Call 211 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .112 ADVERTISERS’ INDEX . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .111
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 9 PANS in the community Amherst Police Department continued Corporal TomWood and Councillor Hal Davidson Constables Andrea Vriend and Caitlin MacKenzie attending the 2022 Atlantic Women in Law Enforcement Conference. Annual MADD Canada Red Ribbon Campaign launch was hosted at the Amherst Police Department Constables John Haggerty and Julian Galloway Constable Michelle Harrison attending one of the many school presentations she gives throughout the year.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 11 PANS in the community Amherst Police Department Amherst Police Pause to Remember Corporal Jeffrey Walsh found some friends while out keeping everyone safe on Halloween Corporal Derek Hebert found a junior member continued Lest We Forget Sergeant Aaron Graham reminding motorists to drive 30 km/h in school zones when children are present continued
12 POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA Harbourside Commercial Park 45 Wabana Court Sydney, NS B1P 0B9 902-564-7944 harcom.ca Proud to support the Police Association of Nova Scotia. Wentworth Porter, Owner/Pres. Tracy Porter, Vice Pres. 88 Town Point Rd Rockville, N.S. B5A 5G2 Phones: Bus. 902-742-5297 Fax: 902-742-1309 Cell: 902-740-4771 Email: rockvillecarriers@gmail.com ROCKVILLE CARRIERS LTD. Dealers in Lobsters Laser & Waterjet Cutting Laser Engraving & 3 D Printing CNC & Manual Machining Welding & Fabrication Portable Welding Portable Line Boring Plate Shearing & Bending Section & Plate Rolling PH: (902) 434-4428
POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 13 Constable Michelle Harrison greeting the public on Canada Day Constable Jade Pratt and Cadet Lauren Millard out and about on Canada Day Constable Mitchell Ferguson, Corporal Derek Hebert, Constable Julian Galloway and Constable Tristan Follows are ready for the Canada Day celebrations PANS in the community Amherst Police Departmentcontinued Happy Canada Day
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 15 Constable Janet Schefter with the kids in the police car PANS in the community Annapolis Royal Police Department A successful fundraiser for kids bicycles was held at Robin’s Donuts with the help from the Annaplois Royal Fire Department. From left to right - Chief Mark Kane, RCMP OFFICER Matt McLean, Constable Janet Schefter, Auxiliary Constable Richard Foster, and ARPD Chaplin Lori Bertaux. Thank-you to all who volunteered and all who donated to this great cause!
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 17 PANS in the community Bridgewater Police Service by KEVIN MCBAIN School Safety Resource Officer plays an important role in the community BRIDGEWATER –Whether it's a high-five, an update on the latest video game or a pass-and-shoot on the basketball court, Bridgewater's-own Const. WilliamCreamer can talk to and relate to students in just about any way that you can think of. Creamer, a member of the Bridgewater Police force, is also the School Safety Resource Officer (SSRO) and his main mandate is to be a part of the lives of the students in all three Bridgewater schools and help them make good decisions. His ability to relate is what opens the line of communication with the students who feel they can talk to him about anything and everything and know they can trust him. "Often times my best relationships end up being with my students that there's not a whole lot of consistency in their life," he said. "The most consistency and structure they get is at school. So when they have dealings with me, I'm a trusted adult they can talk to and I can try and help them." Consistency is key, he said. His hours are from 8 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., but he is most often at work an hour early, sorting out his priorities for the day and who he needs to touch base with and how. Maybe it's a handshake, a chat with a parent, or a chat with the student. Each day he attends all three schools and makes sure he makes contact with as many students as he can. "Me, being very consistent, the students will tell me, just in random conversations different things that they may be concerned about," he said. "Maybe every third handshake or fist bump, someone may say, 'somebody newmoved into town and I'm not that comfortable with them being behind me,' or 'some of the students are doing stuff behind the curling rink, or someone is getting bullied online.'" He said handshakes mean a whole lot more than just a greeting, and it makes them more comfortable to be able to just have a quick chat with him. He also can often be found in the cafeteria at lunch time giving him an opportunity to connect with the students. "If I see someone that doesn't have a lunch or doesn't have much of one, I will get an extra slice of pizza, or whatever's on the menu," said Creamer. "We can talk, or just sit there in silence. I'm not asking anything in return, but that means more to them and to me and there's a connection made." Creamer said that he has dealt with a lot of different things in schools, depending on what grades that he is working with, but in the older grades he's dealt with thefts, assaults, bullying, substance and drug abuse and trafficking, drugs and distribution of intimate images as well. His work also takes him beyond just meeting with the students, he also has two-way communication with the parents, caregivers and grandparents, who may give him a heads-up about their students. He said that overall, Bridgewater is a "rapidly growing town, but we are still a small community. I like the fact that everyone looks out for each other here. Generally, everyone's a good person. But sometimes when you get down, youmight need a little help to get over some bumps in life. Everyone has different struggles." He said it's really nice that even some of the students that have graduated from Park View come back and seek him out for advice or to have a chat. WHO IS CONST. CREAMER? Creamer started in the police force in 2007. But before he put on the uniform he was going to school at the University of New Brunswick in the education and kinesiology program. "I came across a fewmembers of the Fredericton police who had a very large impact on my life," adding that there were police officers in his family as well. continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 19 PANS in the community Bridgewater Police Servicecontinued "When I working in the classroom I saw there were students slipping through certain parts of the system's cracks. The people who were dealing with them all the time were the local police." He credits officer Robbie Costello, as one of the ones that helped him fill out the paper work to attend the Atlantic Police Academy. After one year at the academy he graduated, receiving his graduation certificate on a Friday and went to work the following Monday morning at 7 a.m. in Bridgewater where he performed on the job training. He started on the job in 2007 and within his second year he began his first stint as CSRO. CHANGES Creamer says the needs of the students have changed "greatly." "Once drugs come into a community, it's very hard to counteract that, combat it and educated on it, because there's a level of addiction," he said. "But I have seen changes in the types of drugs that are used from a decade ago. They are now more on the prescription side of things, what people would identify as harder drugs." He said a number of students seem to be more willing to share their prescription medicine with others, maybe for those dealing with things like anxiety, because they may not have their own prescription. Creamer said they are really working at educating students that this is not okay, because everyone's chemistry is different and reactions are different. The other difference is the increase of the sharing and distribution of intimate images online, something that potentially could connect into the world of human trafficking. He said this is where relationship-building with the students is important. SUCCESSFUL? "I feel that the program has been successful. I think my ability though is only there because of the students. If they want me part of their world and I'm showing up every day and doing my best to be a part of the world by actively listening, then doing something, they're going to keep telling me what to do next," he said. He has also been involved in extracurricular activities in the schools and has helped coach the junior basketball team, which is something he enjoys and again, opens another line of communication with the students. FROMTHE CHIEF "Will is very good at his job. No matter what demographic the kids are coming from, or involved in, whether it's cars or sports, he's there and approachable and the kids seem to magnate towards him," said Chief Scott Feener of the Bridgewater Police Force. "Most of the kids know who he is and that he's approachable and they are able to have an open dialogue with him in regards to anything." Feener said the SSRO program began in 2007 when the provincial government were providing resources for funding towards specialized resources to the municipalities. Bridgewater received money towards this program and the Street Crime Enforcement Unit. "We see it as an advantage to our current level of policing and it has various roles depending on which school he is at," said Feener. At the elementary school, he is working on preventative measures and building rapport. At the junior high level, it is much the same with some speaking and a little enforcement. In high school, there is a bit more enforcement needed dealing with complaints, criminal code matters, assaults, bullying, mental health calls and general assistance and advice. "It's all about showing the younger generation that the police are approachable and they should never be scared of the police," said Feener. "If they have problems they can come up and talk to a police officer." FROMTHE SCHOOL Deanna Rawding, principal at Bridgewater Junior High School, said that Creamer is extremely good with the students. "He builds relationships with them and finds out their likes and dislikes. He's in our school everyday, a lot of times during lunch, because it's here that he can interact with the kids and just have everyday conversations," she said, adding that you can find him on the playground, in the hallways, eating lunch with the kids or giving out handshakes in the lobby. Creamer's role is mainly educational, "when we need his support in an education piece you can really see that experience come out. He just wants to help the students learn and make good choices," she said. LIGHTHOUSENOW E-Edition (www.lighthousenow.ca)
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 21 PANS in the community Charlottetown Police Services Constable Tim Keizer and Constable Brodie Bowness had the honor of presenting the 2022 President Cup to the Shawinigan Cataractes. Officer Cooper drops by to wish Dane a Happy Birthday! In November, 20 Charlottetown Police officers, along with their colleagues from PEI RCMP, Summerside Police and the Atlantic Police Academy, were presented with Police Long Service Awards by PEI Justice & Public Safety for 15 and 25 years of service and their commitment to policing in PEI.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 23 PANS in the community Kentville Police Service Constable Jon Theriault, Chief Jim Butler, Constable Andrew Waters continued Brooke MacNeil (daughter of Sergeant Trevor MacNeil), Sergeant Trevor MacNeil, Sergeant Ken Reade, Deputy Chief Marty Smith Constable David MacDonald, Auxiliary Corporal Harlon Wood Constable Kevin Andrews and the Salvation Army representative were accepting donations With the generosity of all that attended, Kentville Police Service were able to hand over $2,006, lots of canned goods and a variety of toys to the Salvation Army. Thanks to Kentville Foodland and Park Street Ultramar for their support in helping to make the annual Holiday Brunch a success.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 25 PANS in the community Kentville Police Servicecontinued Auxiliary Corporal Harlon Wood, Deputy Chief Marty Smith, Sergeant Mike Goss, Constable Chelsey Hutley, Constable David MacDonald, Constable Andrew Waters and Constable Chris Burke ready to march in the Remembrance Day Parade Lest We Forget
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 27 PANS in the community New Glasgow Regional Police NGRPA Operation Christmas Food and Toy Drive. From left; Anita Stewart, Deidra Jones, James Hayes, Jason Lloyd, Daniel Worth, Santa, Bryden Orrell, Ken MacDonald, Nelson Klattenhoff. Kneeling; Ron Walsh and Kelsey Grant Kelly Moore-Reid and Daryl Paris receive the Queen’s Jubilee Medal. Ken MacDonald receives the Queen’s Jubilee Medal. Kelly Moore-Reid, Daryl Paris and Ken MacDonald, as well as Brent Bowden (Truro Police Association) take part in the African Heritage Month Seas of Struggle.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 29 PANS in the community Truro Police Service Sergeant Robert-John Hunka with son Lane J Hunka attending the Remembrance Day Parade in Truro. continued Receiving her stripes from Chief MacNeil. Constable Karen Harling was promoted to Corporal. Receiving his stripes from Chief MacNeil. Corporal Edwin Reynolds was promoted to Sergeant Lest We Forget
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 31 Truro Police Services Holiday Heroes 2022 in person event was a huge success! PANS in the community Truro Police Service continued continued Sergeant Rick Hickox (PANS President), Constable Carley Matheson, Constable Scott Milbury and Mojo accept the PANS donation to the 6th Annual Holiday Heroes.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 33 continued PANS in the community Truro Police Service Constable Scott Milbury and PSD Mojo giving a K9 demonstration during the Kids and Kops Summer Camp with Big Brother/Sisters of Colchester. During the Kids and Kops Summer Camp with Big Brother/Sisters of Colchester Constable Terry Moser gives a presentation on cyber safety and bullying. Inspector Darrin Smith, Constable Brent Bowden, Makayla Bowden and Chief Dave MacNeil attending the Nova Scotia Fallen Peace Officer Service. continued Constable Brent Bowden was selected as one of the honor guards to stand sentry duty at the memorial during the Nova Scotia Fallen Peace Officer Service.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 35 Constable Terry Moser, the Cobequid Hornets and Chief MacNeil at the opening ceremony for the Nova Scotia Special Olympics Provincial Games at St FX University in Antigonish. Constable Matthew Calder and Cadet Howley stopped by Noah’s Lemonade Stand for a refreshing glass of Lemonade on a hot day! Sergeant Robert Hunka, Heather Creelman and Shirley Christensen with MADD Cobequid Chapter attending a roadside dedication ceremony in Glenholme. PANS in the community Truro Police Servicecontinued continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 37 Pink Shirt Day - School Resource Officers Constable Terry Moser and Constable Olivia Goswell wearing their pink uniform shirts at Truro schools on National Pink Shirt Day to help promote safe and respectful learning environments. Happy Halloween! PANS in the community Truro Police Servicecontinued Constable Katelyn Titus-Walsh and Constable Terry Moser attended the Truro Elementary School to educate students on Halloween safety and provide everyone with glow sticks to use with their costumes while trick or treating.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 39 PANS in the community Westville Police Service Chief Howard Dunbar preparing for the Special Olympics parade. Constable Kyle Clarke and Constable Nathaniel Vanderkwaak demonstrating equipment used by the Westville Police Service members at the monthly Westville Neighbourhood Watch meeting. Constable Mathew Morrison and Chief Howard Dunbar attending the raising of the Pride Flag in front of the Town of Westville Town Hall for Pride Week.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 41 Senior abuse is an action, deliberate behaviour or failure to act, by a person in a position of trust - like an adult child, family member, friend or caregiver - that causes or risks causing an older adult: • Physical, sexual or emotional harm; or • Damage to - or loss of - property or assets. Elder abuse covers a whole range of behaviours, from hurtful comments to dominating or controlling another person's daily activities. At its most extreme, senior abuse can result in serious physical harm or endanger a person's life. Abuse may be a pattern of behaviour or just a single incident. It might involve physical harm, social isolation or neglect. Sometimes, the absence of care can hurt just as much as physical abuse. Some kinds of abuse are criminal offences. Other kinds of abuse, like repeated small insults, may not be crimes, but they can hurt anyway.They can also lead to criminal forms of abuse later on. Ageism Stereotypes about old age and aging can be a factor in senior abuse. Some people assume that an older person's mental and physical abilities are limited without regard to the individual's real abilities. They may talk down to an older person or make decisions that affect them without their input.This is known as ageism. The federal and provincial and territorial governments have adopted legislation (human rights acts or codes) prohibiting discrimination on various grounds, including age, in relation to employment, the provision of goods, services and facilities, and accommodation. Everyone deserves protection from abuse. It can create real emotional, physical or financial harm - whether it's hurt feelings, broken limbs or serious financial loss. It can make you feel unsafe where you live and afraid of what might happen next. Being on the receiving end of abuse can make you feel badly about yourself and cause you to lose your confidence and self-esteem.This can make it difficult to make good decisions and to function at work or in your daily activities. Sometimes it takes a while for a person to realize they are being abused. They don't think it could happen to them. If it does, you're not alone—someone will listen. Controlling Behaviour An abuser may be moody or angry. These moods and aggressive behaviours can increase over time.They may be using anger to control you. Some people think they are to blame for the other person's angry behaviour—they don't see that they are being abused. If a partner, family member or friend abuses you, it is not your fault. justice.gc.ca What is senior abuse? Mrs. Chow doesn't want to deal with Alison's embarrassing questions. Usually, the young volunteer reads to Mrs. Chow in her apartment or helps her to walk to the shops nearby. But this morning, Alison wants to talk about the last time Mrs. Chow's granddaughter stopped by to visit. Alison noticed the teenager taking a $20 bill from her grandmother's purse. "Oh, she always gives me money," Tricia had answered, when confronted. "It's no big deal." "I don't want anyone to get into trouble", explains Mrs. Chow as she tries to walk away. She wants to stick by her family, even though she feels hurt. Her family would be angry if Tricia's problems were made public. "But it's not fair to you!" says Alison, following her. "Now I know why you are short of cash so often at the store." Alison stops and looks at Mrs. Chow carefully. "Would it help you to know that you don't have to do this alone? I'd be happy to come by sometime when the girl's mother is here. Maybe there's a way to solve this without everyone feeling too badly." Mrs. Chow is surprised at the relief she feels to hear this. It all feels so complicated. But maybe this girl understands why this is so hard for her. Maybe she does have some choices after all. Reproduced from the Department of Justice publication Elder Abuse is Wrong without affiliation or endorsement of the Government of Canada.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 43 For older people, abuse can come in many forms: physical, sexual, emotional, financial, or neglect. It's possible to experience more than one type of abuse at the same time, or at different times. In Canada, some kinds of abuse - like fraud, assault, sexual assault, threatening harm and criminal harassment - are crimes under the Criminal Code. Some types of abuse are also offences under provincial and territorial laws. A Cycle of Abuse Many people find that abuse often has a pattern. The tension builds for a while until the abusive person lashes out - either verbally or physically.After the "explosion," there is a period of relative calm. Maybe the abusive person says they are sorry and promises it won't happen another time.Then the cycle begins again. Others describe an increasing spiral of abuse—once it begins, it gets worse over time. Violent outbursts and other abusive behaviours grow more frequent and more severe. The following section highlights some important points about each type of abuse. It also provides some suggestions about what you can do to stop the abuse and to improve the situation. Abuse can be confusing and can hurt a lot. It may be difficult or embarrassing to talk about it but it's important to remember that you are not alone.There is help available. justice.gc.ca A Closer Look Harold gives Edna a little smile as he leaves her at the rehabilitation centre. He's happy they will have some time apart. Edna seems like a different person since her stroke - all her patience has flown away. He tries to help her in whatever way he can, but she rarely has a good word for him. His cooking, his cleaning - nothing is ever good enough. Harold wishes he didn't resent Edna's frustration. He knows that it's hard for both of them to adjust. But it's more complicated than that: he finds he is afraid of her too. He practically jumps out of his skin when she bangs her cane on the table.The other day he suggested that she "lighten up" and she threw her coffee at him. He still has the burns. He's worried her outbursts will get worse. He's tried talking to their daughter. "Oh come on, Dad," she said. "Mom has always been so sweet." But this isn't the Edna they all used to know. Maybe if he talks to the nurse at the rehab centre about it. He and Edna have shared so many happy times together. He doesn't want to remember their last years like this. Reproduced from the Department of Justice publication Elder Abuse is Wrong without affiliation or endorsement of the Government of Canada.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 45 What does it look like? Physical abuse is the deliberate use of force against a person without that person's consent. It can cause physical pain, injury, or impairment.This includes: • Pushing or shoving • Biting • Hitting, slapping or kicking • Burning • Pinching or punching • Throwing an object at you • Throwing an object at you • Misusing physical restraints • Confining you to one place or room. All of these acts are crimes in Canada. Physical abuse includes the deliberate overmedication or under medication of an older person. What can I do? If you are being physically abused, you may need to leave the situation or your home.You can start by going to a safe place, like your neighbour's or a friend's place, a business or a shelter. Consider reporting the abuse to the police or call 9-1-1. Stress and Abuse Family stress sometimes leads to elder abuse. A spouse's health can deteriorate, leading to stress and change. Adult children juggling multiple family and work demands can become short-tempered. They can overlook their parents' changing physical and emotional needs. The presence of depression, alcoholism or drug abuse can also lead to abusive behaviours or neglect. An existing family history of abuse can intensify as a parent or older family member becomes more dependent. If you are in this situation - or know someone who is - talk to a social worker or someone you trust. Help is available for families going through hard times. If you've been injured, you should seek medical attention as soon as possible. For emergencies, go to the hospital. Some other things you can do are: • Talk to someone you trust • See a social worker or counsellor • See your doctor or visit a medical clinic • Call your local help or crisis line • Speak to your doctor or pharmacist if you think you're getting the wrong amount of medication • See the police to get a criminal order (or "peace bond") to keep the abuser away from you. You may want to see a lawyer or victim service provider to get a civil protection order (restraining order or emergency protection order). These are legal tools that can help to have the abuser removed from the family home or kept away from you. If you are thinking of leaving If you are being abused, it is important to think first about your safety.You also need to think of the safety of any children or other dependent relatives living with you. You may fear that your family and friends will not support you if you leave. They may have fixed ideas of what's right for older adults.They may not like your decision. But even so, it still may be better for you and for those who depend on you to leave rather than to continue to be abused. In an emergency, call 9-1-1 Or call your local police. Try to leave the situation. If you can, attract attention by screaming. If there is violence … Be sure to protect yourself or anyone who depends on you. justice.gc.ca Physical Abuse Sam slams the door in a rage as he leaves his father's house. This time he's really fed up with Abe's insults! His hands are shaking as he grips the steering wheel in the car.Abe's been telling him he's no good ever since he was a kid. Sam doesn't know how many times Abe slapped him over the smallest of things - breaking a dish, losing a hammer, failing a test. Now, it seems everyone expects him to do Abe's errands.Well, there's no way he's doing that! If they knew the real Abe, they'd see that the old guy is quite able to look after himself! Today, though, Sam knows he really lost it.They'd started to argue again and Abe came after him swinging his arms for a fight. Sam couldn't stop himself—he slammed the old man up against the kitchen cupboards. It's not the first time this has happened; but this time, he just left Abe there on the floor, yelling that he'd broken his leg.What if Abe calls the police? In a way, it would be a relief. He needs to talk to someone: he can't stand feeling the remorse and the anger at the same time. Sure, he feels guilty; but isn't Abe also responsible? There must be someone who can understand why they get like this. Reproduced from the Department of Justice publication Elder Abuse is Wrong without affiliation or endorsement of the Government of Canada.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 47 What does it look like? Sexual abuse involves any unwanted sexual touching or activity.This can include: • Kissing, fondling or sexual intercourse without consent • Continuing sexual contact when asked to stop • Being forced to commit unsafe or degrading sexual acts. Sexual assault is a crime in Canada. Even when you are married, it is a crime to force any sexual conduct on another person. Other sexual offences include sexual exploitation of children and of persons with a disability. What can I do? • Talk to someone you trust • Call a sexual assault crisis line • Consult a nurse, social worker or doctor • Call the police • In an emergency, call 9-1-1 • See the police to get a criminal order (or "peace bond") to keep the abuser away from you. If you are being sexually assaulted you may need to go to a safe place and seek help. Consider reporting the assault to the police and going to the hospital. justice.gc.ca Sexual Abuse Claire hasn't touched her dinner. It's like this every night now. She hasn't been happy since her nephew, Louis, came to live with her. The doctors insisted that she needed someone to look after her. It all seemed to make sense: Louis could help her with her errands and the house, and there would be somebody around overnight. But Louis was so much more than she had bargained for! She dreads it when he calls her into the living room in the evenings. She doesn't want to remember how he forced her to do it the first time, but now he expects her to touch him in a sexual way while he reads dirty magazines. She feels sick with shame. But when she refused to do it, he hit her.Then he told her that if she made any trouble, he would push her down the stairs and leave her for dead. Everyone would think it was an accident. Claire is getting really scared. It doesn't seem like anyone comes to the house any more. She's starting to think she should call the police. It's hard to imagine calling so much attention to things, but it may not be safe to wait to talk to someone else! Reproduced from the Department of Justice publication Elder Abuse is Wrong without affiliation or endorsement of the Government of Canada.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 49 What does it look like? Emotional (or psychological) abuse involves using words or actions to control, frighten, isolate or erode a person's self-respect. Emotional abuse can include: • Putting you down or humiliating you • Ignoring you or your health needs • Yelling at you constantly • Making threats to harm you or others • Intruding on your privacy • Making fun of your language, traditions, religious or spiritual beliefs, or preventing you from practicing your religion. • Keeping you from seeing your family, friends or community • Making threats to move you out of your home • Deciding what you can or can't do. Emotional abuse is serious - inside wounds can take a long time to heal. Some forms of emotional abuse are crimes. Stalking, verbal threats, harassing telephone calls, deliberate intimidation and counselling (advising) suicide are all criminal acts in Canada. Many other forms of emotional abuse are not crimes. Still, they can hurt a lot and may lead to criminal acts later on. Criminal Harassment Criminal harassment is a crime. It involves repeated conduct that causes another person to fear for their safety or that of a loved one.You may be afraid because someone: •Watches you or tracks where you go • Leaves threatening messages • Makes threats to you, your children, family, pets or friends • Calls you over and over again, and perhaps hangs up when you answer • Sends you letters or e-mail messages constantly • Sends gifts you do not want What can I do? • Tell someone you trust • Try not to let the abuse silence you •Write down what is happening to you. Keep your notes in a safe place. • Change locations, if you can • If you are afraid, call the police. You do not have to face this alone. Talk to a social worker, a counsellor or someone you trust. They can help you understand more about emotional abuse. Abusers can't always change, but sometimes there are ways to restore and improve intimate and family relationships. Help is available. Elder mediation Elder mediation can be a tool to promote family discussions that might resolve disputes and reduce conflict over issues involving older adults, such as caregiver stress, financial, medical or residential care decisions. By improving communication, you and your family can learn how to take better care of yourself and each other. justice.gc.ca Esha says nothing, as her daughter starts yelling at her. She wonders why Anila treats her this way so often. What happened to her daughter's love and sense of respect? Esha's back begins to ache; she has the breakfast clutter and the entire house to clean.And now her daughter,Anila, wants her to cook dinner for the children tonight. She longs to say no: she can already see them scowling at the traditional dishes she likes to make. She was very happy at first to come to Canada. But now she wishes there was still a place for her back home. Her son-in-law, Chanda, is impatient with her country ways.And her daughter blows back and forth like the wind; sometimes her comments are just as cruel. Esha rarely goes out; she feels unsure of her English. She'd like to go to the Indo-Canadian centre again, but she knows Anila doesn't want to take her. She feels stronger chatting with women her own age. They tell her that her children ask too much from her. Her daughter says they should mind their own business. Esha thinks she will ask her friend Sakina to come with her to talk to the social worker at the centre if she goes. Emotional Abuse Reproduced from the Department of Justice publication Elder Abuse is Wrong without affiliation or endorsement of the Government of Canada.
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