FAMI LY VIOLENCE AWARENESS 54TH ANNUAL CRIME PREVENTION GUIDE
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 1 Hello, On behalf of the members of the Atlantic Police Association and the Police Association of Nova Scotia, I extend our heartfelt gratitude to the businesses and members of the public for their continued generosity and support. Your contributions play a vital role in helping us raise awareness through our annual Community Crime Prevention Guide and in supporting numerous local charities - an ongoing commitment that has spanned over 50 years. Your generosity makes a meaningful difference in our communities, and we truly appreciate it. As we move forward in 2025, we send our best wishes for a happy, healthy, and safe year to all. A special thank you to Fenety Marketing for their dedication in ensuring the success of our annual guide. Thank you for standing with us. Harvey T. Timmons President Atlantic Police Association / Police Association of Nova Scotia Thank You PO BOX 88, EASTERN PASSAGE STN. MAIN, EASTERN PASSAGE, NS B3G 1M7 PHONE: (902) 468-7555 EMAIL: PANS@APA.ONE PANS Office Staff David W. Fisher CEO Brigitte Gaudet Controller President: Harvey Timmons 1st Vice-President: Steve Shipley - Lunenburg County 2nd Vice-President: Dale Johnson - Charlottetown Secretary/Treasurer: Mike Goss - Kings County Area Director: Trevor Lamont - Colchester County Area Director: Jason Galloway - Cumberland County Area Director: Chris Irving - Pictou County PANS BOARD OF DIRECTORS
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 3 Proceeds from our 54th Annual Crime Prevention Guide on Family Violence Awareness have allowed the Police Association of Nova Scotia to make a donation to Transition House Association of Nova Scotia. THANS exists to eliminate violence against women in Nova Scotia. We: • Work with other equality seeking organizations, and the 3 levels of government, to address barriers that prevent women, and their children from living free of Violence and Abuse. • Advocate for sufficient programs, services and funding for Transition Houses in Nova Scotia. • Increase public awareness of Violence and Abuse in our society. • Conduct and/or participate in Feminist Participatory Research. • Provide training and networking opportunities for Boards and Staff of our Member Organizations. The Transition House Association of Nova Scotia (THANS) members provide transitional services to women and their children who are experiencing violence and abuse. This includes ulturally relevant services to Mi’kmaq People. THANS 11member organizations work with women and their children in 13 locations across Nova Scotia. thans.ca • First Responders’ Wellness Symposium Society • Frank Deschene Memorial Golf Tournament • Holiday Heroes • Transition House Association of Nova Scotia COMMUNITY DONATIONS 2024 The Police Association of Nova Scotia supported communities across the province through a variety of programs and activities, including donations to the following: Thank You Corporal Scott Milbury and Constable Terry Moser accepting a donation from the Atlantic Police Association PANS donates to THANS.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 5 From the Publisher On behalf of the Police Association of Nova Scotia, I would like to take this opportunity to sincerely thank each and every advertiser and sponsor of our Annual Telephone Appeal, allowing this unique publication to be distributed throughout the community, to schools, libraries and public facilities and also available online at www.pansguide.com, making it easily accessible to everyone. PANS publishes an Annual Crime Prevention Guide to educate the public on important community concerns. This 54th Annual Crime Prevention Handbook targets the subject of Family Violence Awareness, designed to help educate and promote the public’s role in identifying and reporting potential Child and Spousal Abuse. A serious concern for all Nova Scotians. This publication is made possible as a result of financial support from residents and business representatives throughout the Province. With their generous support for the activities of the Police Association of Nova Scotia, PANS is also able to support our communities, including a special donation this year to the Transition House Association of Nova Scotia. We welcome comments or suggestions regarding these publications and always look forward to speaking with you each year during our Annual Telephone Appeal. Respectfully, Mark T. Fenety President Fenety Marketing Services
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 7 54th Annual Crime Prevention Guide TABL E OF CONTENTS FAMILY VIOLENCE AWARENESS What is Family Violence? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .47 Warning Signs of Abuse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .59 Safety Planning . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .63 How to Help Someone Who Has An Abusive Partner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .69 How to Talk to Someone Who Abuses Their Partner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .75 Abuse is Wrong in any Family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .77 Barriers to Leaving . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .83 Going to the Police . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .85 Healthy Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .91 Why Does Abuse Happen? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .95 Family Violence Statistics in Canada . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .101 A plea to stop the cycle of intimate partner violence in N.S. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .111 Getting Help . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .115 Need help but don’t know where to start? Call 211 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .128 ADVERTISERS’ INDEX . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .126 Message from PANS President . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1 PANS Board Of Directors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1 PANS supports Transition House Association of Nova Scotia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .3 Message from the Publisher . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .5 Amherst Police Department - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9 Bridgewater Police Service - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13 Charlottetown Police Services - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .17 Kentville Police Services - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27 New Glasgow Regional Police - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .33 Stellarton Police Service - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39 Truro Police Service - in the community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .43
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 9 PANS in the community Amherst Police Department K9 Lola, Rocky K9, Chief Pike & Constable MacKenzie visited these young entrepreneurs at a local lemonade stand! Ryleigh was tasked with doing a school project on what she wants to be when she grows up and she chose Constable Michelle Harrison! continued Constable Dale Johnson (Charlottetown Police Service), Inspector Brian Gairns (Amherst Police Service) & Sergeant Jason Galloway (Amherst Police Service) at the Frank Deschenes Memorial Golf Tournament held in Amherst. PANS sponsored a hole.
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PANS in the community Amherst Police Department POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 11 continued K9 Lola and Constable Tristan Follows made some new friends at the LA Animal Shelter's family fun day Police Week Celebrations
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 13 PANS in the community Bridgewater Police Service Both current and retired Bridgewater Police Service members proudly attended Remembrance Day Ceremonies. Bridgewater Police, RCMP and MADD at the MADD checkpoint. We will Remember... continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 15 PANS in the community Bridgewater Police Servicecontinued Bridgewater Police Local 108 and Bridgewater Police Service staff were honoured to work together once again to give back to those in need this Christmas season through the Salvation Army's Christmas Assistance Program. Constable Charles Bruce dropped off gifts in support of a local family. Bridgewater Police were honoured to once again stand alongside members of the RCMP and EHS to receive donations in support of the Bridgewater Inter-Church Food Bank. This year's effort raised more than $3,700 in cash donations and over $11,000 in food donations.
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Constable Dale Johnson, Special Olympic Athlete Erin Pippy, and Constable Chris Conwell at the PEI Law Enforcement Torch Run Convoy in August. POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 19 PANS in the community Charlottetown Police Servicecontinued Sergeant Melissa Craswell, Corporal Tim Keizer, Deputy Chief Jennifer McCarron, Sergeant Tara Watts with McDonald’s staff members for McHappy Day in May. Dispatcher Kelly Gehl, Constable Chris Conwell, Constable Dale Johnson, Corporal Bobby Larter, and Constable Holly Hartlen at the National Police Memorial Ceremony in Ottawa in September. continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 21 DAVE STEWART, PNI ATLANTIC - Published Nov 14, 2024 dave.stewart@theguardian.pe.ca Charlottetown police officer downplays role in rescuing woman from harbour waters CHARLOTTETOWN, P.E.I. It was around 10 p.m. on Nov. 8 when the call came over to police radio that a woman had fallen in the water of the Charlottetown Harbour. Veteran Charlottetown police Cpl. Tim Keizer was nearby onWater Street when the call came in. He hit his lights and siren and whipped the car around. On the way there I took off my gun belt and any personal objects because I figured I knew there wasn’t going to be anybody there closer than me, Keizer said in an interview with The Guardian on Nov. 12 at Charlottetown Police Services. When he got to the end of Queen Street, he could not see the woman, so he started yelling and screaming trying to locate her. At this point, other units started to arrive, and all the officers were yelling for the woman. The officers discovered the woman, identified only as a 27-year-old, had drifted from the bottom of Queen Street over towards Peakes Quay. She was clinging to an item of clothing a friend had thrown her to keep her from going under. Charlottetown police veteran Cpl.Tim Keizer pulled a woman out of the icy waters in the Charlottetown Harbour on the night of Nov. 8. He shrugs off any suggestions that it was a heroic act. - Photo by Dave Stewart • The Guardian PANS in the community Charlottetown Police Servicecontinued continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 23 In the water Keizer estimates she had been in the water, at that point, for 10 minutes. She had on a big parka, so it was not a good situation, Keizer said. Keizer asked his supervisor to lower him over the edge of the wharf since he could not see any ladders. I knew she needed help. Keizer is a 28-year veteran of the department and an avid swimmer. The police corporal is also a local boater, so he is familiar with the area. Keizer’s supervisor had located a life ring and threw it in. Keizer placed it under the womans legs and around her torso. ‘I don’t want to die’ All she was saying is, I don’t want to die, I don’t want to die. I said, Look around, we’re all here, you are not going to die. I kept asking her name, trying to distract her because I didn’t want her to panic. But she was hysterical. By then, the Charlottetown fire department and Island EMS paramedics were on the scene and helping. Officers on the ground started to pull the distressed woman up the seawall and managed to get her four feet out of the water when she fell back in because of her panicked nature. Officers once again attempted to haul her out, getting her within three feet of land when she fell back in again. Swim to rescue Then I knewwe were going to have to swim to some point and I picked where the seadoos are (moored). The guys threw a (life) ring in for me and we had to swim down about 50 metres or the length of the seawall. Once Keizer managed to swim the woman down, other officers, firefighters and EMS pulled her out and then him. The officers kept askingme if I was OK. I was. After that, I didn’t stick around too long. I was pretty cold. The fire department provided me with a blanket and asked me if I wanted EMS. I said no. I got back in my patrol car, drove to my house, had a hot shower and went back to work. The woman sustained no major injuries. She was very thankful to be out of the water. Once she was safe, my job was done. I was very fortunate to have a real good team around me. At no point did I think we were not going to be successful. Not a hero Keizer cuts The Guardian off before the reporter can ask if he thinks he did anything special. Charlottetown police officer downplays role in rescuing woman from harbour waters continued Charlottetown police veteran Cpl. Tim Keizer, centre, told The Guardian that he is surrounded by heroes in the department.With him is Const. Jana Vessey, left, and Const. Shaun Davis. – Dave Stewart/The Guardian continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 25 Don’t go there, Keizer said. I didn’t do it for thanks. Everybody did what they were supposed to and that’s why we didn’t have a body retrieval. This woman is alive today because everybody did what they were supposed to, including her friend who gave her the piece of cloth she hung on to. Chief Brad MacConnell agrees this is part of the job expected of his team. “I’m very proud of (Cpl.) Tim (Keizer) and very proud of all our officers because it’s true, the nature of the work puts us in positions every day to make a significant difference in peoples lives Charlottetown Police Chief Brad MacConnell” Certainly, I can say that I’m very proud of Tim and very proud of all our officers because it’s true, the nature of the work puts us in positions every day to make a significant difference in people’s lives. Sometimes it’s saving lives, sometimes it’s a hand up. Every day were making an impact on our community. MacConnell said what happened on Nov. 8 is not an isolated incident; it’s another day in the life of a police officer. Community Keizer said helping save the woman’s life on Nov. 8 does not even rank on his list of highlights in his lengthy career. It’s probably a burning car on fire and pulling a guy out, Keizer said. That day we only got one out, so you wear those ones, you don’t forget those ones. Could be a domestic violence case where a daughter says I helped save her and her mother. Or (on Nov. 12), we had two guys pull someone off the (Hillsborough) Bridge. He was on the guardrail, and they had to fight with him to get him off the bridge. Keizer said he is surrounded by officers who have compassion for the residents they serve. We buy food for the homeless out of our own pockets. This is not a job for people who are heartless. Dave Stewart is a reporter with The Guardian in Prince Edward Island. He can be reached by email at dave.stewart@theguardian.pe.ca and followed on X @DveStewart . https://www.saltwire.com/atlanticcanada/charlottetown-police-officer-downplay s-role-in-rescuing-woman-from-harbourwaters-101007076 Charlottetown police officer downplays role in rescuing woman from harbour waters continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 27 PANS in the community Kentville Police Service continued Kentville Police Service enjoyed assisting KCA with their Trunk or Treat this year which was a huge success where candy was handed out to almost 700 kids. Members of the Kentville Police Service attending the 42nd Annual Fallen Peace Officers Memorial Service in Halifax.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 29 PANS in the community Kentville Police Servicecontinued Kentville Police Service had a great time at the Valley Harvest Fest Marathon raising $750 for Campaign for Kids. Most did the 5 km run. Constable Chelsey Hutley and Constable Heather Campbell completed the 10 km run and Constable Mark Hall ran the 50 km run continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 31 Constable Ben Fleckenstein & Constable Kain Anzovino PANS in the community Kentville Police Service continued Sergeant Kevin Pick and “Make-A-Wish” Representative – Joyce Nifort Constable Mark Hall Sergeant Trevor MacNeil & Constable Nate Mooij This year was Kentville Police Service’s 10th and best year hosting their annual Holiday Brunch. Due to all the generous donations, they were able to send a cheque for $4,951.45 to "Make-A-Wish Canada". Special thanks to Lisa's Independent Grocery and Park Street Ultramar for their food and beverage donations!
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James Hayes receives a certificate of recognition for high level of impaired driving arrests from MADD Canada. POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 33 PANS in the community Claire Corkum-Timmons, Lauren Stiles, Kelly Reid and Destiny Merriam at the Atlantic Women in Law Enforcement (AWLE) conference in Fredericton New Glasgow Regional Police Santa, Nelson Klattenhoff, Anitia Stewart, Ron Walsh, Zach Sharpe, Lauren Stiles, Daniel Worth, Kelly Reid, Bryden Orrell, Ryan Leil, Donnie Wadden and Napoleon at the NGRPA Canadian Tire toy drive. continued
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NGRP's Justice Facility Dog, Napoleon, celebrates his birthday! POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 35 PANS in the community New Glasgow Regional Police continued Ryan Leil and Ryan Thibeau (Community Resource Officer) opening the new NGRP Community Office on Provost St, New Glasgow. Happy Birthday Napoleon! Kelly Reid, Destiny Merriam and Stellarton's Makayla Morrell at the African Heritage Month opening. continued
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Ken MacDonald at Tim Hortons donut fundraiser in support of Special Olympics. Jason Lloyd doing a presentation on safety with children from Trenton Elementary School. POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 37 PANS in the community New Glasgow Regional Police continued Zach Sharpe, Darryl Paris, Kelly Reid, Bryden Orrell, Santa, Daniel Worth, Ryan Chisholm, Dave Bowman and Carmelo Desmond at the NGRPA Atlantic Superstore toy drive. Harvey Timmons, and the U11 PCMHA team he coaches being visited by the Jr A Crushers, during practice.
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PANS in the community POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 39 Stellarton Police Service Constable Makayla Morrell & Constable Gabe Vandergrift represented the Stellarton Police Service and completed the 10 km run at the Johnny Miles Running Event. Constable Chris Sampson participating in the Annual Pictou County Go Clean Get Green Week. continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 41 PANS in the community Constable Gabe Vandergrift serving cake at the Annual Canada Day Seniors’ Tea. Stellarton Police Servicecontinued Sergeant Paul Veenhuis & Constable Daniel Holland escorted everyone along the Albion/Samson trail as part of the Annual Ice Cream Ride Constable Grant MacAdam and Constable Adam Rideout attending the annual Community Tree Lighting. Constable Grant MacAdam and Constable Makayla Morrell with donations from the food drive held by the Stellarton Police Service in support of the Pictou County Food Bank East
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 43 PANS in the community continued The Truro Police Service attending the Remembrance Day Service at the Royal Canadian Legion Branch 26, Truro. Lest We Forget K9 MoJo taking a break on a warm day. Truro Police Service
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 45 PANS in the community Truro Police Servicecontinued Truro’s Holiday Heroes was started in 2017 by Truro Police Service members, Scott Milbury and Edwin Reynolds as well as Leeann. One young attendee’s comment when leaving this year’s event was “I wish I could wake up and start the day all over again, it was the best day ever.” Photo credit to Steve Currie of Currie CineMedia Constable Cole Baker enjoying a hockey break with some new friends.
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 47 What is family violence? continued Designed by Freepik Family violence is when someone uses abusive behaviour to control and/or harm a member of their family, or someone with whom they have an intimate relationship. Family violence includes many different forms of physical and emotional abuse, as well as neglect carried out by family members or intimate partners. It may include a single act of violence, or a number of acts that form a pattern of abuse. Family violence can have seriousand sometimes fatalconsequences for victims and for those who see or hear the violence. Although the Criminal Code does not refer to specific "family violence offences", many Criminal Code offences could be used to charge someone with acts of family violence. For more information on the criminal laws that could be applied, please see family violence Laws. Forms and types of violence There are many forms of violence, including physical, sexual, emotional and financial abuse. The different forms of abuse can also occur in a range of relationships and contexts. Some examples of various types of family violence are intimate partner violence, child abuse and neglect, elder abuse, violence based on socalled "honour" and forced marriage. Forms of violence Family violence is not just physical violence. A person can be the victim of one or more forms of violence or abuse including: • Physical abuse • Sexual abuse • Emotional abuse • Financial abuse • Neglect • Physical abuse
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 49 What is family violence? continued continued Physical Abuse Physical abuse, including assault, is the intentional use of force against a person without that person's consent. It can cause physical pain or injury that may last a long time. Physical abuse includes: • pushing or shoving • hitting, slapping or kicking • pinching or punching • strangling or choking • stabbing or cutting • shooting • throwing objects at someone • burning • holding someone down for someone else to assault • locking someone in a room or tying them down • killing someone All of these acts are crimes in Canada. Sexual Abuse Sexual abuse of an adult can include: • sexual touching or sexual activity without consent • continued sexual contact when asked to stop • forcing someone to commit unsafe or humiliating sexual acts All sexual contact with anyone without consent is a crime. This includes sexual touching or forcing sexual activity on a spouse, a common law partner or a dating partner. Even when married, a spouse cannot be forced to have sexual contact. There are also special laws to protect children from sexual abuse and from sexual activities that exploit them. Emotional abuse Emotional abuse happens when a person uses words or actions to control, frighten or isolate someone or take away their selfrespect. Emotional abuse is sometimes called psychological abuse. It can include: • threats, put downs, name calling or insults • constant yelling or criticism • controlling or keeping someone from seeing friends or family • making fun of preventing someone from practicing their faith or religion • destroying belongings, hurting pets or threatening to do so • bullying: intimidation or humiliation (including on the Internet) Many forms of emotional abuse are not crimes but can be signs that the abuse might get worse. Some forms are crimes such as: • threats to harm the person or someone else • criminal harassment (stalking) which involves following or repeatedly contacting a person when they don't want contact and they are afraid. Financial Abuse Financial abuse happens when someone uses money or property to control or exploit someone else. It can involve: • taking someone's money or property without permission • withholding or limiting money to control someone • pressuring someone to sign documents • forcing someone to sell things or change a will
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 51 Most forms of financial abuse are crimes, including theft and fraud. Neglect Neglect happens when a family member, who has a duty to care for you, fails to provide you with your basic needs. This can involve: • not providing proper food or warm clothing • failing to provide adequate health care, medication and personal hygiene (if needed) • failing to prevent physical harm • failing to ensure proper supervision (if needed) Spouses and commonlaw partners have a duty to care for each other. Adults have a duty to care for their dependent children as well as their dependent parents. Some forms of neglect are crimes in Canada, including failure to provide the necessities of life and child abandonment. If a child is neglected, child protection authorities could intervene and remove the child from his or her parents. Types of family violence • Intimate partner violence • Child abuse and neglect • Elder abuse • Violence based on socalled "honour" • Forced marriage • Female genital mutilation Intimate partner violence Intimate partner violence is violence or abuse that happens: • within a marriage, commonlaw or dating relationship • in an oppositesex or samesex relationship • at any time during a relationship, including while it is breaking down, or after it has ended Not all intimate partner violence is the same. In some cases, one person may want power and complete control over their partner and will use different ways (including physical violence) to get it. For example, they try to control things such as: • what that other person can wear • when and where that person can go out • who that person spends time with • when that person can talk to family and friends • what that person can spend money on • whether that person can work or take classes • all aspects of that person's sexual activity This type of abuse almost always gets worse over time. It often leads to serious physical violence and can cause you to have lasting health problems, including posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In other cases, both partners may abuse each other. Conflict happens in every relationship, but there are healthy ways to solve problems. Sometimes people use violence instead of solving their problems peacefully. It can be hard to break the pattern of abuse, but it is possible. What is family violence? continued continued
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 53 Child abuse and neglect Child abuse includes physical, sexual and emotional abuse. It also includes neglect, and any violence that children see or hear in their families. The person who abuses the child can be: • a parent • a brother or sister • another relative • a caregiver • a guardian • a teacher • another professional or volunteer who works with children (for example, a doctor or coach) Abuse may take place in a child's home, or it may happen in other places, like other people's homes, schools, community centres or places of worship. Laws to protect children There are federal, provincial and territorial laws to protect children from abuse in the home. Some types of abuse are crimes and are listed in the Criminal Code which is a federal law that applies across Canada. Even if the abuse is not a crime under the Criminal Code, provincial and territorial child protection laws could be used to stop the abuse. There are also special laws to protect children from sexual abuse and from sexual activities that exploit them. Child sexual abuse happens when a person takes advantage of a child for sexual purposes. Sexual abuse of a child includes: • any sexual contact between an adult and a child under 16 years of age • any sexual contact with a child between the age of 16 and 18 without consent • any sexual contact that exploits a child under 18 Any sexual contact between an adult and a child under 16 is a crime. In Canada, the age of consent for sexual activity is 16, but there are some exceptions if the other person is close in age to the child. In addition, children under 18 cannot legally give their consent to sexual activity that exploits them. Sexual activities that exploit a child include prostitution and pornography. They also include situations where someone in a position of authority or trust, or someone the child depends on, has any kind of sexual activity with the child. A person of authority or trust could be a parent, stepparent, grandparent, older sibling, teacher or coach. If a child is sexually abused at home, child protection services could intervene and remove the child from his or her parents. What is family violence? continued continued Designed by Freepik
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 55 Child witnesses to family violence Children who witness family violence are at risk for both short and longterm harm. Even if they don't see or hear the violence, they can be affected by hearing or seeing the results of the violence. They can have emotional, behavioural and developmental problems. These problems can last a long time. They are also at risk of developing posttraumatic stress disorder. Exposing a child to family violence can be grounds for child protection intervention under provincial and territorial child protection laws. Elder abuse Elder abuse is any action, behaviour or failure to act, by a person in a position of trustlike an adult child, family member, friend or caregiverthat causes or risks causing harm to an older adult. Elder abuse includes: • physical, sexual or emotional harm • damage toor loss ofproperty or assets Elder abuse covers a whole range of behaviours including • hurtful comments • dominating or controlling an older adult's activities • isolating an older person from family, friends or regular activities • unduly pressuring older adults to sign legal documents that they do not fully understand • misusing a power of attorney • not providing appropriate medication or medical attention • any form of physical abuse Elder abuse may take place in the home, the community or in an institution. Violence based on socalled "honour" Violence based on socalled "honour" happens when family members use violence to protect the family's honour. The victim, who is usually female, has behaved in ways that the family believes will bring shame or dishonour. For example, the family might not approve of: • dating or talking to boys • having sexual relationships outside marriage • wearing what the parents believe is the wrong clothing • refusing a forced marriage What is family violence? continued Designed by Freepik continued Designed by Freepik
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 57 What is family violence? continued The family members believe that using violence will restore the family's reputation. The types of violence the family uses can include: • beatings • threats • forced confinement • counselling suicide • killing These actions are all crimes, and crimes committed in the name of socalled "honour" are often planned in advance with other family or community members. This violence is not limited to any particular ethnic or religious community. Forced marriage Forced marriage happens when one or both people do not consent to the marriage. Forced marriage is not the same as arranged marriage, where people consent to the marriage. Family members sometimes use physical violence, abduction, forced confinement or emotional abuse to force the person into the marriage. Even if parents try to force their child to marry because they think it is good for the child, using threats or violence to do this is a crime. Children might also be the victims of forced marriages. Sometimes their families take them out of school to force them into marriages. This violence can occur in many ethnic or religious communities. Female genital mutilation Female genital mutilation is any procedure that injures or removes all or part of the external female genital organs for nonmedical reasons. It has no health benefits and it can cause pain and serious longterm health problems. Female genital mutilation of a child is a crime in Canada. Also, any person who helps mutilate a female child's genitals could be charged with a crime. This includes parents, doctors, or nurses. Even the person who asks someone else to do this to a child commits a crime. It is also against the law to take a child out of Canada to have this procedure done in another country. Female genital mutilation is child abuse and should be reported to the authorities. Impact on Canadians All members of society are affected by family violence. There can be long term impacts of violence on victims' physical and emotional health that can result in their inability to work, loss of wages, lack of participation in regular activities and limited ability to care for themselves and their children. Children may suffer longterm emotional, behavioural and developmental problems that can even lead them to be violent later in life. The financial consequences and the effects stretch far beyond to the victim's family, friends, and communities. There are also social costs. A considerable amount of Canadian resources are directed to address this issue including health care costs, costs to the justice system, to employers and businesses, and to social and community services www.justice.gc.ca
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 59 continued Warning signs of abuse Designed by Freepik People affected by family violence may cope differently or show no signs. There are some common warning signs of abuse you can look for. If you know someone experiencing family violence, find out how to help them. Adults As victims of family violence, adults may: • withdraw from family and friends • stop going out or doing activities they used to enjoy • show a change in personality including mood swings • show signs of depression or anxiety • hint about abuse • talk about their partner's substance use or abuse and concerns about their children seeing it • have unexplained bruises or other injuries • not want to make even simple decisions without their partner • have limited access to money • begin to use or abuse drugs or alcohol as a way to cope Children As victims of family violence, children may: • often be left alone, hungry, dirty or not dressed for the weather • try to take on adult responsibilities like caring for siblings, doing household tasks or looking after a parent • act aggressively towards others • withdraw from others, lack energy or act passively • be extremely watchful or fearful of parents' reactions • have problems at school or with their grades • have unexplained bruises or other injuries • dress provocatively or inappropriately • know more about sex than is normal for their age • start smoking or using drugs or alcohol to cope • run away from home repeatedly
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 61 Warning signs of abuse continued Youth As victims of family violence, youth may: • have mood swings • change their style of clothing, makeup or hair • start hanging out with different people • skip or drop out of school, or have falling or failing grades • overreact to things that seem small or unimportant • seem to lose confidence in themselves • withdraw from friends or family • stop going out or doing activities they used to enjoy • have unexplained bruises or other injuries • start smoking or using drugs or alcohol to cope • run away from home repeatedly Older adults As victims of family violence, older adults may: • seem frightened, withdrawn or depressed • seem groggy all the time, possibly due to overmedicating • show signs of depression or anxiety • lose weight or seem too thin • wear dirty clothing or clothing not suitable for the season • not have their glasses, dentures, hearing or other assistive devices • have unexplained bruises, sores or other injuries • be isolated from others • have items missing from their homes • have someone cashing their pension cheques or withdrawing money from their bank accounts • have their medication taken from them Know your rights! Family violence is a crime. You have the right to: • be free and safe from violence • be treated with courtesy, compassion and respect • get information about their legal rights • press charges for criminal actions • have the maximum protection from abuse permitted by law including restraining or protection orders • get help from community resources www.alberta.ca
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POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 63 continued Safety Planning You can get help in Nova Scotia any time of the day and any day of the week. Call 211 for information about organizations that can help. Ask about the Men’s Helpline, Women’s Helpline, or All Genders Helpline. Call the Transition House Association of Nova Scotia: 18552250220. Call 911 in an emergency. When one partner is hurting the other, it’s called abuse or domestic violence. It can include physical abuse, sexual abuse, controlling their partner’s money or behaviour, controlling them emotionally, or coercive control. Coercive control is behaviour by a current or former partner or family member that makes someone fear they will be physically harmed, causes their mental health to decline, or causes the victim such distress that their daytoday activities are negatively affected. A safety plan lays out how you can protect yourself and your children, and how you can make a plan to keep as safe as possible. Take one action at a time. Start with the one that is easiest and safest for you. If you live with a partner who abuses you • Tell someone you trust that your partner is abusing you. • Think about ways your partner has hurt you in the past. This will help you predict the level of danger you and your children face and when it might be safest to leave. • Plan where to go in an emergency. • Create a plan to get out of your home safely. If you have children, practice getting out of your home safely with them. • Ask neighbours, friends, and family you can trust to call the police if they become aware of abuse. • If you and your partner are starting to argue, move to a place where you can get outside easily. • Try to avoid rooms where there are potential weapons, like the kitchen, workshop, or bathroom. • Always back your car into the driveway and keep it fuelled. • Hide your keys, a cell phone, and some money near your escape route. • Have a list of phone numbers to call for help. Call the police if it is an emergency. If you have children • Teach your children that hurting other people is never right, even when someone they love hurts other people. Tell them the abuse isn’t your fault or their fault; they did not cause it, and neither did you. Help them understand it is important to be safe, and that abuse is never acceptable. • Try not to run to a place where the children are, as your partner may hurt them as well. • Teach your children how to get help. Let them know it is not helpful to get between you and your partner if there is violence. Plan a code word to signal they should get help or leave. • Plan how to get out of your home safely and practise with your children. • Ask your neighbours to look after your children in an emergency.
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