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Bullying AwAreneSS BULLYING PREVENTION & AWARENESS 4 0 t h A n n u a l C r i m e P r e v e n t i o n G u i d e 2 0 1 0 Cyber Bullying Benefit Hockey: PANS Annual Police Conference IN THIS ISSUE: PANS scores for local charities PANS in the NEWS PANS Junior Curling Championship Information for Parents and Kids on the risein Nova Scotia Pink Shirt Day Lady Gaga and Ellen join forces to combat bullying

Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 1 On behalf of the Board of Directors and Members, the Police Association of Nova Scotia wishes to thank all citizens and businesses in Nova Scotia for the support to PANS. PANS appreciates your interest in our magazine and has been proud to have had the opportunity for 40 years to make this project so successful year after year. Once again, a sincere “thank you” for assisting our organization with your continued support. Special thanks also goes to Fenety Marketing Services for their extreme excellence in professionalism and their hard work in helping to make this Guide possible. Derrah Reid, President, PANS Thank You!

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 3 PANS Office Staff & Email Addresses PANS BOARD OF DIRECTORS P O L I C E ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA PHone: (902) 468-7555 (PANS office) ToLL-fRee: 1-888-468-2798 fAX: (902) 468-2202 Amherst Charities: Children’s Wish Foundation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Amherst and Area Food Bank . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Cumberland County Transition House . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Halifax Charities: Children’s Wish Foundation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2500 Feed Nova Scotia . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2500 Wolfville Charities: Children’s Wish Foundation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 MADD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Triumph House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Truro Charities: CEC Safe Graduation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Colchester Regional Hospital - New Hospital . . . . . . $1000 Children’s Wish Foundation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 new Glasgow Charities: Tim Horton’s Scholarship Foundation . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Kids First Family Resource Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 Children’s Wish Foundation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $1000 other nS Charities: Heart and Stroke Foundation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $250 NS Fallen Peace Officers Memorial . . . . . . . . . . . . . $500 NS Police Curling Association . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $200 Sergeant Mark Gallagher Vocational School in Haiti $200 NS Chiefs of Police . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $200 Charlottetown Police Choir . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $400 Kelly Manuel to participate in Boston Marathon . . . . $150 Charlottetown Police Hockey Team . . . . . . . . . . . . . $300 David W. fisher CEO dfisher@accesscable.net Donna Gallant Executive Assistant donnagallant@accesswave.ca Brigitte Gaudet Controller bgaudet@accesswave.ca DONATIONS 2010 PAnS offiCe ADDReSS: 1000 Windmill Rd., Suite 2 Dartmouth, N.S., B3B 1L7 President Derrah Reid 1st Vice-President Dale Johnson - Charlottetown 2nd Vice-President Richard Hickox - Truro Secretary-Treasurer Wilfred Andrews - Annapolis Valley Area Director Morgan Gibson - Bridgewater Area Director Steve Curley - Pictou County Area Director Doug Williams - Springhill NoTice To SuPPorTerS: The Police Association of Nova Scotia has changed its name! We are slowly transitioning from “PANS” to “APA” (Atlantic Police Association). The Police Association of Nova Scotia supported the community through a variety of programs and activities, including:

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 5 Buylling in the news: PANS Junior Curling Championships ............29 PANS in the news ...........................................33 Truro's anti-bullying 'Cyber cop' wows minister, MLAs....................................................43 Bullying on Facebook – Should a victim’s name be revealed to the public?....................................45 Many feel bullied in workplace.............................47 Cyberbullying Task Force......................................49 Stop A Bully website .............................................51 Introducing troubled youth to “normal” ................53 Back to school, back to bullying ...........................55 Students fight cyber-bullying ................................57 Pink Shirt Day .......................................................59 Lady Gaga and Ellen DeGeneres Against Bullying..................................................61 Prevnet Bullying is Wrong and Hurtful ..............................63 Are Canadians Too Nice to Bully? .......................65 Kid Power Bullying in Sports..................................................71 What if MY Child is the Bully? ............................73 Acting Friendly or Truly Being Your Friend? How to Tell the Difference.....................75 Bullying – What Do Kids Say? .............................79 Facing Bullying with Confidence..........................81 Teaching Children the Skill of Confidence..............................................83 Addressing Cyber-Bullying ...................................85 How to Pick a Good Self-Defense Program .........................................87 Speaking Up About Putdowns...............................89 Bullying in Schools – Seven Solutions for Parents ...........................................93 Record Keeping and Bullying ...............................97 What Every Kid Needs to Know About Bullying ....................................................97 By Not Speaking Up, Am I Accepting Bullying? ............................................99 Suicide & Bullying ................................................101 Fighting Bullying with Babies ..............................103 nS Department of education Cyberbullying-Op-Ed ..........................................109 Cyberbullying Task Force Chair Announced ......111 Branching Out .....................................................113 Canadian Red Cross How You Can Help Stop Bullying ........................115 Tips for Schools .....................................................117 Tips for Parents......................................................119 RespectED .............................................................121 Peaceful Schools International ..............................125 HOPE - A Kid’s Help Phone Tip Sheet.................129 ADVeRTiSeRS’ inDeX.....................................135 MANAGiNG EDiTORKathy Gilbert GRAPHiC DESiGNERHolly Barker COPy WRiTER / RESEARCHThérèse Beaulieu 40th Annual Crime Prevention Guide TABle OF COnTenTs Bullying AwAreness Message from PANS President .......................1 About PANS....................................................3 Publisher’s Page .............................................7 Annual PANS Conference ..............................9 PANS in the Community.................................13 Donation to the Canadian Red Cross..............17 Benefit Hockey Games Amherst ...........................................................19 New Glasgow..................................................21 Halifax.............................................................23 Truro................................................................25 Wolfville..........................................................27

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 7 From the Publisher “Providing quality, professional marketing and fund raising services on behalf of high-profile, non-profit organizations.” www.fenety.com On behalf of Fenety Marketing Services and the Police Association of Nova Scotia, I would like to take this opportunity to thank each and every contributor to our 2010 Telephone Appeal, allowing us to publish this community publication. I would also like to congratulate PANSon the publication of their 40th Annual Crime Prevention Guide. In selecting Bullying Awareness as the theme of this 40th Crime Prevention publication, our goal is to encourage families, students, schools, organizations and other groups to become better informed about the issues around bullying. This publication contains information on the different types of bullying, as well as describes the social, verbal, physical and cyber bullying consequences on individuals that are bullied. We are confident that you can find resources here to help you, or your organization, reduce bullying in schools, recreational programs, community organizations and elsewhere. We welcome your comments or suggestions, and we look forward to speaking with you again this year during our Annual Telephone Appeal. Respectfully, Mark T. Fenety President Fenety Marketing Services

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 9 PAnS Annual Conference, June 2010 Held in Amherst Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS David W. Fisher, CEO Derrah Reid, President PANS David Fisher & Dave Moore of MAPP (Speaker) Mike O’Connell, David Fisher, CEO, and Peter Driscoll (Peter & Mike were guest speakers) Conference meetings Derrah Reid, Dorothy Marshall & David Fisher – Dorothy retires after 29 years with the Police Association of Nova Scotia

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 11 PAnS Annual Conference, June 2010 Held in Amherst Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS Ken Jackson (Cst.) & spouse, Maryanne at conference social. Gail MacDonald of Charlottetown Police Service at conference social. Mike Goss of Kentville Police Service and Brian Gairns of Amherst Police Department during conference break. Sid Stead, Ron Kennedy, Gail MacDonald & Tim Keizer – enjoying music by Charlottetown police officers at the conference. Chris Jobe from Amherst PD and Donna Gallant and Dorothy Marshall from the PANS office in the hospitality room.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 13 Springhill Police Service held their 3rd annual fishing derby at the Springhill Pit Pond on May 15th, 2010. Kate Smith, seen here with Const. Ken Jackson, Community Relations Officer, took home top prize in the 13 to 15 age group. Special thanks to D&J Home Hardware and the Springhill Police Association for donating the prizes that made this a successful event. Internet Safety and Cyber Bullying Presentation, presented to Springhill Junior High Students, by Cst. Ken Jackson, Community Relations Officer, Springhill Police Service (left) and Cst. Dal Hutchinson, Community Policing Officer- Cumberland RCMP, (right). Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS Charlottetown Choir (Front) Kim Mooney, Choir Director. From left to right: Sgt. Gordon McConnell, Cst. Walter Vessey, Cst. Dale Johnson, Cst. Ross Davis, Cst Chris Conwell, Cst. Kasey Bradley, and Cst. Tim Keizer. Springhill On May 25th the children from the Marion MacLeod Head Start Pre-school Program visited the Springhill Police Service to have their finger prints taken for Children's Identification Kit sponsored by Child Find Nova Scotia. Pictured is Cst. Ken Jackson finger printing pre-schooler David Rushton.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 15 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS PAnS Activities 2010 Truro Police Services members participating in the “Funspiel” in Truro. “Funspiel” participants relaxing after a game. Cst. Cullip and Cst. Hickox representing the Union presenting Cst. Kelly Manuel with a track suit for her to wear when she participated in the Boston Marathon in April. Members of the Truro Police Services posing with Cst. Manuel and her new track suit. Bridgewater Police Association presented two Bridgwater High School grads with $250.00 bursaries at Graduation Ceremonies in June. Left to right: David Rechnitzer, Cst. Himmelman, and Mason Jordan.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 17 CAnADiAn CRoiX-RouGe ReD CRoSS CAnADienne PANS donated $5,000.00 to the Canadian Red Cross. Pictured in the photo is Ismael Aquino, Regional Director; David Fisher, CEO; Marie-Paule Doucette, Senior Corporate Relations Officer, and Christina C. Copeland, Associate.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 19 Benefit Hockey Amherst Our Charity Hockey Game in Amherst on February 17, 2011, featuring the Maritime All Stars, raised over $3,000.00 to support our Police Association’s activities in the area. Generous contributions were made to the Amherst Food Bank, Cumberland County Transition House, and the Children’s Wish Foundation. Carol Dixon of Amherst won a trip for 2 on Via Rail!

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 21 Honourable Peter MacKay of Pictou Co. and Minister of National Defence was part of the action. Douglas Pitts of New Glasgow won a trip for 2 on Via Rail! New Glasgow Benefit Hockey Our 12th Annual Charity Hockey Game on March 28, 2011, featuring the Pictou County Ladies All Star Hockey Team, was a success, with over $6,000.00 in proceeds raised to support our Police Association’s many activities in the area, including generous contributions to the Kid’s First Family Resource Program, the Children’s Wish Foundation and the Tim Horton Children's Foundation.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 23 Jessica Naugler of Dartmouth won a trip for 2 on Via Rail! Benefit Hockey Halifax Our Annual Charity Hockey Game in Halifax on February 10, 2011, featuring the Maritime All Stars, was a huge success with over $12,500.00 in proceeds raised to support our Police Association’s many activities in the area. Generous contributions were made to the Children’s Wish Foundation and Feed Nova Scotia.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 25 Graham Loughead from Truro won a trip for 2 on Via Rail! Benefit Hockey Truro Our Annual Charity Hockey Game on March 23, 2011, featuring the C.E.C. Cougars High School hockey team raised over $5,000.00 to support our Police Association’s many activities in the area, including generous contributions to the C.E.C. Safe Grad, Children’s Wish Foundation, and the Colchester Regional Hospital (New Hospital Fund.)

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 27 One lucky spectator won a trip for 2 on Via Rail! (no name available) Benefit Hockey Wolfville Our 13th Annual Benefit Hockey Game on February 24, 2011, featuring the Maritime All Stars, raised over $7,000.00 to support our Police Association’s activities in the area, including generous donations to the Annapolis Valley MADD Chapter, Children’s Wish Foundation and the Triumph House.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 29 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS PANS Junior Curling Championships PANS President Derrah Reid attended the PANS Junior Curling Championship, which PANS sponsors each year.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 33 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS AnS in the news... Mary Lloyd, President of the Pictou County Injured Workers Association was the guest speaker during the National Day of Mourning ceremony held at the Trenton Steeletown Park Thursday. Lloyd talked about the lack of accountability in accident prevention. When companies allow the same accident to happen repeatedly it is no longer an accident, she said, but criminal negligence. The National Day of Mourning is held annually on April 28 and was officially recognized by the federal government in 1991, eight years after The Day of Remembrance was launched by the Canadian Labour Congress. NHL Players, Colin White (Left) and Jon Sim, (Right) presented cheques for $2,500 to both the DARE mentoring program and the Oncology Client Service Fund of the Aberdeen Hospital during the Play the Pros event recently. New Glasgow Police Const. Ken MacDonald accepted the cheque for DARE. Joanne Cumminger accepted the cheque for the Oncology Client Service Fund. As originally published in the The News, August 24, 2010. National Day of Mourning (Adam Macinnis - The News - As originally published in The News) Play the Pros

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 35 NEW GLASGOW - Const. Graham Purvis, the traffic enforcement officer for the New Glasgow Police Service, is concerned for his safety on occasion when making a traffic stop. It’s with good reason too because all he has to guarantee his well-being when stopping a vehicle is a brightly colored jacket, flashing lights and his own instincts. “I stop a lot of cars on East River Road. Most people move over and some don’t and some are very close to me, two to three feet. It’s very unnerving. A bright jacket like this is very visible,” he said, referring to his bright lime green / yellow police jacket. The Nova Scotia Government has taken steps to ensure the safety of Const. Purvis and his fellow police officers, paramedics and firefighters with a law that requires drivers to move over and slow down when passing an emergency vehicle with its lights flashing. Const. Ken MacDonald of the New Glasgow Police said the law was put in place in May 2010 and it’s similar to laws that protect workers in construction zones and students in school zones. This law has the aim of protecting three groups of people, Const. MacDonald said. “It’s protecting three people with one law. It was introduced to protect the police officer, the citizen in the vehicle that is stopped and the other motorists.” He said the law is similar to one in place in various communities across North America. It requires drivers to slow down and move into the left lane when safe to do so. On the highway drivers must slow down to at least 60km/h. Const. Purvis said drivers must switch lanes and if they can’t do it right away they have to wait for a safe break in traffic to move over. Feedback from various police forces is very similar to the local story. Const. MacDonald noted. “We’ve talked to other officers in Nova Scotia and found that vehicles are failing to comply with the law and others are not aware of it. We’re trying to get the information out there. We’re not just hearing from police officers, it’s paramedics and firemen at accident scenes.” Const. MacDonald said the seatbelt and daytime running lights laws are still meeting resistance or ignorance even years after they came into effect. The fine for a first offense for failing to obey the move over law is $340.00. As originally published in The News, by Ray Burns, January 21, 2011. Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS PAnS in the news... Dramatic Exercise - Local police officers put their training to the test Thursday during an emergency preparedness exercise at Glen Haven Manor. A scenario involving a hostage taking at the home involved the 12 emergency response members, two negotiators, incident commander, two patrol officers and three members of the major crime unit as well local fire department and EHS standing by. Some residents at the home were involved in the mock exercise while patients and their families were also informed of what was taking place. As originally published in the The News, by Sueann Musick, November 5, 2010. Police remind motorists to slow down around emergency vehicles

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 37 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS PAnS in the news... Traffic checklist - Police and RCMP officers will be conducting checkpoints across the country this long weekend as part of Operation Impact. Officers were checking for daytime running lights and such motor vehicle infractions as not using seatbelts and cell phone use as well as impaired driving. Here, Const. David Bowman conducts a checkpoint Friday afternoon with some fellow officers from the New Glasgow station. As originally published in The News, by Sueann Musick, October 9, 2010. Drivers have a new lesson to learn this week just like all the students who are heading back to class. Effective Friday, a new provincial law doubles the fine for anyone caught speeding in a school zone. The minimum fine for exceeding the speed limit in a 50 zone stands at $225.21 if a driver is between one and 15km/h over the limit. With this new law that minimum fine would jump to $450.42. “There has been an issue with speed zones and school areas,” Const. Ken MacDonald of the New Glasgow Police Service said. “Speed kills, driver distraction kills.” “It (speed) can be very crucial if a child crosses or if a crossing guard gives a direction to stop...It’s in the interest of public safety that we protect our students and the staff members in the school zone area.” The law is similar to one the province enacted a couple of years ago which doubles speeding fines in construction areas. MacDonald said the speed limit is not changing, just the fines. “Fifty (km/h) has proven to be a key speed to be in control of your vehicle.” MacDonald added that school zone signs aren’t changing but new signs will be added to remind drivers of the new law. Another factor MacDonald wanted to remind drivers of is the basic fact that kids are going to be back on the streets in school zones after a summer of school zones being dormant. “Because of the summertime everyone is so used to kids not being in school. People may not think twice that school’s in.” FINES TO DOUBLE FOR SPEEDING IN SCHOOL ZONES As originally published in The News, by Ray Burns, September 1, 2010.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 39 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS PAnS in the news.... Road toll prep - Trenton Middle School students Jacob Pentz, left, and Chad Lumsden, right, meet with New Glasgow Police Const. Becky Heighton to go over plans for a road toll on Main Street, Trenton, tomorrow. It will be held from 4-7 p.m. and funds raised will go toward Home and School Association-sponsored events for the students, like end of year trips. As originally published in The News, by Jennifer Vardy Little. No other way to cut it - shredder day was a hit By any measure the first-ever community shred program was a hit. The program began at 10:30 a.m., Thursday and by shortly after 11 a.m., there had been 45 bags and boxes dropped off to be shredded and disposed of. Const. Ken MacDonald said that by the 1pm deadline 107 bags and boxes of papers were put through the shredder. “It was an overwhelming success,” Const. MacDonald said. “We seem to have had people from all over Pictou County. We met our objectives to prevent identity theft and promote identity theft awareness...we’re looking at doing it again next year.” One county resident who took advantage of the service was Eleanor Robertson. “I wanted to get rid of stuff I’ve been saving in the attic for 12 years.” She said the material she was disposing of was mostly personal financial materials like tax returns and VISA bills. “This is a wonderful idea. I’m going back to check for more,” she said. Const. MacDonald said that was the main goal, to help people dispose of personal information in a safe, secure manner. “In talking with people in the community, it is mostly receipts with personal information,” he said. Devin Jollimore, of Shred-it, the company that provided the mobile cross-cut shredder, said the material is trucked to their plant at Ragged Lake. “We press it and wrap it and it gets recycled.” The truck was certainly in demand: Jollimore said they had 16 more stops that day. The project was a joint initiative of the New Glasgow Police Service, Pictou County Municipalities Crime Prevention Association, Crime Stoppers and the New Glasgow Library. As originally published in The News, by Ray Burns, November 19, 2010.

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 41 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS PAnS in the news... Police Week Const. Graham Purvis of the New Glasgow Police Service demonstrates how to use a speed radar gun from the 1970s. The gun was part of the display at the Highland Square Mall for Police Week. The display also included police vehicles, information pamphlets and drug displays. Some motorists don’t get it: illegal use of new centre turn lane dangerous, police say New Glasgow police say motorists are creating a dangerous situation on East River Road by driving in the new centre turning lane. In just a 10-minute period on Monday, Const. Ken MacDonald counted six drivers cruising down the centre lane - an action that could result in several charges under the Motor Vehicle Act for driving in a turning lane and changing lanes unsafely and net fines of $225 apiece. But, says MacDonald, that’s not the only thing that motorists are doing wrong with this lane. In some cases, police have seen people use it to pass other vehicles moving at a slower pace. “This is not an express lane, this is not a driving lane,” MacDonald said. “It’s a turning lane, it’s made for people to pull into in order to safely make a left-hand turn and keep the traffic flow along East River Road moving with ease.” The signage and lane marking are quite clear, he said, and the configuration is the same as on the Westville Road, where this problem isn’t occurring. It’s left police puzzled and wondering why motorists aren’t following the rules along East River Road. “I can only guess that people don’t understand what exactly the centre lane is for - they’re driving the whole way down it.” MacDonald said. Police say this creates a very dangerous situation since traffic travelling both directions use the lane and it’s possible that two vehicles could have a head-on collision if they’re both driving in the turning lane. “We really see the number of incidents increasing as traffic gets busier,” he said. “People seem to think they can use it as a faster method to move through traffic, but this is a turning lane only. If people are using it as a driving lane, there’s an increased chance of a collision.” No accidents have occurred yet, but police want to nip the situation in the bud. If educational efforts aren’t successful, he said, the police will turn to enforcement. As originally published in The News, by Jennifer Vardy Little

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 43 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS www.news957.com Truro's anti-bullying 'Cyber cop' wows minister, MLAs Scott Simpson Apr 08, 2011 05:31:10 AM Provincial politicians got a look at how one Nova Scotia police force is fighting cyberbullying, as officers from Truro brought a flashy touring show to Province House. Cyber, the "robot cop", is actually a regular human police officer inside a high-tech, six-foot-six-inch tall suit that looks like the love child of a Star Wars Storm Trooper and Japanese animation robot. "Hello, citizens," Cyber greeted the crowd at the legislature in a Darth Vader-like voice. "My name is Cyber." Cyber is part of a multimedia presentation used in the Truro area to teach online safety, which covers identity theft, and rules of conduct for electronic devices such as cell phones and instant messaging services. "Treat everyone as a stranger, especially online," he suggests. The police use a big-screen video starring TV's Jonathan Torrens, DJ lights, and music with a beat to engage kids up to grade six. Cyber then leads the kids - or, in Thursday's case, MLAs and other grownups - in a pledge to honour the code of conduct. "I promise to follow all the cyber rules," intoned Cyber, as MLAs dutifully repeated after him. Education minister Ramona Jennex, who recently announced the formation of a task force on cyberbullying was impressed with the high-energy show. "This is one of those pieces that we can use within the recommendations that will be coming forward," she said. "This is something that's in action right now. I'm really thrilled by the work they're doing." The minister says Truro police will be part of the task force, which is expected to deliver a report in December. Cyber Cop shows off at Province House, April 2011 Truro’s Cyber Cop teaches kids about online safety. As originally published on www.news957.com

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 45 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS In a March 2011 decision, the Nova Scotia Court of Appeal held that the name of a 15-year-old girl who was allegedly bullied and defamed online could be revealed to the public. This case is about a teenage girl from Nova Scotia who became aware in March of 2010 that a new Facebook page, which included her photograph, a slightly altered version of her name, and discussions on her physical appearance and scandalous sexual conduct, had been posted online in her name. The contents of this page allegedly harassed, bullied and defamed her. She told her father that she had not created this fake page and that she did not know who had. Her parents applied to the Court for an order revealing the identity of the person(s) who created and posted the Facebook page as well as a publication ban prohibiting the revelation of their daughter’s identity. They did succeed in getting an order to reveal the identity of the person(s) who posted the defamatory comments, an IP address said to be located in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia. Bragg Communications Limited which owns Eastlink, an Atlantic Canada cable television and Internet services provider, was ordered to disclose the identity of the owner of the IP address. They did not oppose this request. But Justice LeBlanc refused the second request that a publication ban be granted to conceal her identity or that a partial ban of the alleged defamatory words be allowed. The plaintiff appealed this ruling to the Court of Appeal but the appeal was denied. She is now appealing to the Supreme Court of Canada. The teenager says that the judge failed to take into account the vulnerability of children and ignored an obvious and serious risk of harm. She argued that should her identity be revealed, further harm would be caused since the bullying and defamation would continue in some form, possibly by her peers. The Nova Scotia Court of Appeal saw it differently. The Court reasoned that, should the plaintiff be successful at trial, “one might expect that she will be lauded for her courage in defending her good name and rooting out online bullies who lurk in the bushes, behind nameless IP addresses. The public will be much better informed as to what words constitute defamation, and alerted to the consequences of sharing information through social networking among ‘friends’ on a 21st Century bulletin board with a proven global reach.” Justice LeBlanc argued that the public was entitled to know whether these words were defamatory and for the public to be able to view the Facebook profile in its entirety, and not by way of edited bits and pieces. Only then would the public be truly informed as to the nature of the alleged defamation. In his view, rather than produce a reluctance to complain about online Internet bullying, this might serve to deter would-be bullies with the threat of retribution, once unmasked. A recent study shows that nearly 60 percent of Canadian students use chat rooms and instant messaging and 99 percent use the Internet. This has created an enormous potential to use the Internet as a weapon. As a student at Deer Park Public School in Toronto put it, “The Internet has really given everyone a voice and they’ve decided to use that voice to either criticize people or make fun of them in some sort of way.” And on turning off the computer completely and not reading messages at all, this student adds, “I should have a right to be able to log on to the Internet or use my cell phone or check my email without having people sending me those messages. I mean, sure you could just hide from everything, you could shut the door to your room and sit in a chair for the rest of your life, but that wouldn’t work out too well. Bullying on Facebook – Should a victim’s name be revealed to the public? © 2010 Fenety Marketing Services

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Police AssociAtion of novA scotiA 47 Bullying Awareness 40th Annua l Cr ime Preven t i on Gu i de 2010 PANS If you think bullying is reserved for children on the playground, or others online, think again. According to a new study, many adults fall victim to bullying — at the office. CareerBuilder.com surveyed more than 5,000 full-time workers and found that more than one-in-four of the respondents have felt bullied at the workplace. See the full results of the survey at www.pinkshirtday.ca Co-anchor Chris Wragge noted women reported a higher incidence of being bullied. Among those surveyed, 34 percent said they felt they were a victim of bullying compared to just 22 percent of men. But why? “Well, think about a bully,” said Mary Lou Quinlan, a successful businesswoman and chief executive officer of Just Ask a Woman. “A bully needs a target, and generally, that target is someone farther down the food chain. Unfortunately, there are more women who are less senior, so they make a bigger target. I think, also, women have radar that can pick up the unseen, subtle bullying signals. So that sensitivity probably raises the concern.” Wragge asked, “Is (it) a little bit more sensitivity rather than just kind of being overt bullying? Quinlan responded, “It can be. I think today’s bullying is actually a little scarier. It’s not the screaming in the conference room. It’s the sabotaging of ideas when no one else is there. That’s a little scarier.” The age factor, Wragge noted, is eye-opening. According to the study, 29 percent of workers aged 55 and older and those age 24 and younger reported being bullied. “The two highest percentages of any of the ages surveyed,” Wragge pointed out. “Why were these age groups so popular in this category?” Quinlan said, “It didn’t surprise me, because they’re really the most vulnerable. If you think 55 and older, unfortunately in this economy, they’re the ones who are most fearful of the pink slip, because the opportunities aren’t there. So they are a target. Also, 24 and under, it’s a confidence issue. They maybe don’t know any better, and think that’s the way you’re supposed to be treated in the workplace. Not true, but they’re still new.” Older workers, Quinlan said, “(have) seen enough battles. (They think) ‘Who needs one more conflict? I’d rather just keep the job and put my head down.”‘ So should you confront a workplace bully? Among those surveyed, 47 percent of all workers who reported they’d been bullied said they’d confronted their bully directly. Of those people, 43 percent said the problem stopped and 13 percent said it got worse. And 44 percent said everything stayed just about the same. So should you confront a bully based on those results? Quinlan says yes. “I still say do it,” she said. “Your self-esteem needs it. A bully sees weakness, and it will only get worse. You can either suffer in silence and have a stomachache or just stand up and take it.” To confront the bully, Quinlan says you should treat it like a work assignment. Wragge observed that 28 percent of people took their bullying issues to Human Resources. Of those, 38 percent said measures were taken to resolve the problem. However, an alarming 62 percent said that nothing was done. Shouldn’t companies make sure that, when a complaint is registered, they do something? “You’d think so,” Quinlan said. “But really, H.R., they’re not the hall monitors of the schoolyard. Their job is to keep the company balanced and successful, so they can be great. But they’re going to defend whoever is bringing money in. It could be the bully is farther up and is a revenue generator.” Quinlan said if you’re on receiving end of this treatment, you want to get your facts straight first. “It’s an emotional feeling,” she said. “You might want to scream or you might want to have a big tirade of your own. Waste of time. Put it aside and get the pattern, keep notes. Make sure there’s more than one time, so it wasn’t just a one-off.” She continued, “I’d look for at least two or three occurrences before I decide that it was personal. I’d also be sure I could get some witnesses.” So you do you communicate with a workplace bully? “I think the best way to defuse, especially the ignorance, but even the anger, is to walk in in an atmosphere of mutual respect,” Quinlan said. “At least try the, ‘I’m here to be successful, and so are you. So let’s just put it on the table, and you’re going to have to knock it off.” Many feel bullied in workplace, study shows www.pinkshirtday.ca

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