POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 75 What Should I Do What should I do if a child or youth tells me they’re being hurt? Do you know what to do if a child or youth discloses to you that they have or are being hurt? By knowing how to respond, you can make a critical difference in the life of a child or youth. Stay calm Your reaction matters. The child or youth may hesitate, or try to protect you from the information, if they think what they are saying is making you feel upset or angry. Take a deep breath, and stay calm. Listen Listen openly. Let the child or youth lead the discussion, in their own words and at their own pace. Don’t ask leading or probing questions, or press for lots of additional details. Believe them Thank them for sharing. Reassure them that you believe them, and that the abuse is not their fault. Be honest. Tell them that you need to share what they have told you with other trusted adults who can make sure they are safe. Don’t assume or promise things that are beyond your control (like, “The offender will go to jail”) Things that can be helpful to say It might feel hard to know what to say after someone tells you they’ve been abused or assaulted. Being supportive and caring is the most important thing you can do. Some examples of helpful responses include: • “Thank you for telling me.” • “I believe you.” • “I’m sorry that happened to you.” • “It’s not your fault.” continued Designed by Freepik
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