POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 67 • Get an unlisted telephone number; block your number, so it doesn’t show up when you make calls; if you have a landline, get caller ID so you can see who is calling you. • Screen your calls so you don’t answer a call from your partner by mistake. • Make sure your children’s school or day care centre knows about the abuse and has copies of all documents about it. • Carry a photo of your expartner and your children with you. • Ask your neighbours to look after your children in an emergency and to call the police if they see your expartner. • Take extra care at work, at home, and in the community. Think about telling your supervisor at work about your situation. • Think about places and patterns that your expartner will know about and try to change them. For example, use a different grocery store or place of worship. • If you feel unsafe walking alone, ask a neighbour, friend, or family member to go places with you. • If you need to go back to your home, ask the police to go with you. Never confront your expartner Are you in an abusive relationship? Ask yourself these 20 questions Have they: • Called you names and/or criticised you. • Tried to keep you from doing something you wanted to do. • Prevented you from having money for your own use. • Ended a discussion with you and made the decision themself. • Threatened to hit or throw something at you. • Pushed, grabbed, kicked or shoved you. • Slapped, pinched or punched you. • Put down your family and friends. • Accused you of paying too much attention to someone or something else. • Put you on an allowance. • Used the children to threaten you. • Became upset with you over the way you did household chores or with how you prepared dinner. • Threatened to commit suicide. • Made you do something humiliating or degrading. • Checked up on you, listened to your phone calls, checked your mileage or called you repeatedly at work. • Drove recklessly when you were in the car. • Pressured you to have sex in any way you didn’t want or like. • Refused to help with housework or childcare. • Threatened you with a knife, gun or other weapon. • Told you you were a bad parent. • Stopped you or tried to stop you from going to work or school. • Forced you to have sex. • Cheated on you. • Choked or strangled you. • Threw, hit or smashed something. women.novascotia.ca Safety Planning continued
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