POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 93 WHAT'S WRONG WITH SPANKING? continued... Things to try: Put dangerous things out of reach; shift your child's attention with a safe toy; use words like "hot," "sharp," "ouch" to teach about danger; watch your child closely; always make sure your child is in a safe place where you can see him/her. Is your preschooler having tantrums? Often, young children have tantrums because they are frustrated and cannot control their feelings. They can be frightened by their tantrums. Spanking them may only frighten them more. Things to try: Stay close by; keep your child safe; stay calm and quiet; take deep breaths. When he/she is calm, use words like "You were mad." Show him/her how to handle angry feelings without yelling or hitting. Ways to Help Your Child Behave Well • Create a loving and respectful home. • Be a good role model. • Focus on prevention. • Decide what is truly important and have a few clear and consistent rules. • Tell your child what you expect. • Praise your child's efforts, even if they're not perfect. • Respect your child's needs to grow and explore. • Watch your child closely so that you can redirect behaviour before it gets worse. • Ignore minor misbehaviour. • Make sure that you both get enough sleep. • Make sure that you both eat nutritious food regularly. • Last but not least, have lots of fun with your child. If you are feeling angry; • make sure your child is safe. • take a few minutes for yourself, then calmly talk to your child. • call someone who will understand. Parents are always learning. All parents need ideas and support. Remember... Nobody's Perfect! Where to go for support: • Family doctor or nurse • Local public health department • Child care centres • Family resource centres • Child and family service agencies • Parenting programs such as Nobody's Perfect • Native friendship centres, First Nations, Métis and Inuit organizations • Multicultural or newcomer centres For copies of this free brochure contact: National Clearinghouse on Family Violence Tunney's Pasture (1907D1) Ottawa, ON K1A 1B4 Telephone: 1(800)267-1291 or (613) 957-2938 TTY: 1(800)561-5643 or (613) 952-6396 Facsimile: (613) 941-8930 Web site: