POLICE ASSOCIATION OF NOVA SCOTIA 121 * Share the Responsibility Everyone has a responsibility to help stop bullying. Spread the word that bullying isn't cool. Support victims. Speak up or get help when you see it happening. Make sure you're doing your part. * Be a Leader of Cool Take steps to stop bullying in your school. Talk to your teacher or principal and ask for help in setting up a "Say No to Bullying" campaign. TIPS FOR KIDS BEING BULLIED FROM KIDS HELP PHONE 1-800-668-6868 Bullying is scary and embarrassing. It can make you feel as if it's your fault. It's not! There are things you can do to make bullying stop. Here are some tips. * Stay calmand don't act upset or angry: bullies love a reaction. Practise what you'll do the next time it happens. If you don't act upset or react the way they want you to, they might get bored and stop. * Don't fight back. If you fight back you could make the situation worse, get hurt, or be blamed for starting the trouble. * Try to calmly withdraw from the situation. Try to ignore the bullying or say "no" really firmly, then turn and walk away calmly. It's very hard for the bully to go on bullying someone who won't stand still and listen. * Give your stuff up, if it's either you or your stuff. Things can be replaced - you can't! * Avoid being alone in places where you know the bully is likely to pick on you. It's not fair that you have to do this but it might put the bully off until you talk to an adult or find another solution to stop the bullying. * Don't be afraid to tell an adult you trust, like a teacher or your mom or dad, and keep telling them over and over again. You don’t have to let them take over. You can talk with them about what you would like to happen. * Most of all, don't give up. Being bullied can make you feel really bad about yourself and very discouraged. This is exactly what the bullies are hoping for. If you give in, they will be able to take advantage of you in different ways and at different times. If you're feeling like giving up, make sure you talk to someone. Don't forget Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868 is always confidential and free. Or check out the "Violence" section of the Kids Help Phone website, Kids Help Phone and Bell Online: ARE YOU A BULLY? Tips for Bullies from Concerned Children’s Advertisers: * Weigh the Odds. Decide if bullying is worth getting in trouble, possibly hurting yourself or others and turning people away from you for a long time. Chances are, you just want to make a point, but it's probably not worth the price and you likely won't get what you want. * Put yourself in their shoes. As hard as it is, try and understand what it would be like for others to be mean and nasty to you, and to be unable to defend yourself. If you can even slightly identify with the feelings of a victim, it won't be long before you stop. * Appreciate People's Differences. Instead of picking on people for being different, use it as an opportunity to learn new things. Ask children who are different from you about their background, beliefs, favourite foods and music - they might introduce you to something new to enjoy. * Temper Triggers. Learn to recognize your 'temper triggers.' When someone pushes the wrong button, just take a deep breath and walk away. That way YOU are the one in control of the situation. * Cool Down. Try not to act out in anger. When you are upset, give y ourself time to cool off. Go for a walk. Call a family member. Listen to some music. Think of something that makes you feel good. * Express Things Differently. Channel your energy by doing something active or creative. Sports are fun, challenging and a great way to learn how to get along with other kids; writing, painting or drawing can make you feel a whole lot better. Try sharing your thoughts on paper with someone you trust. * It's Not Funny! You might think that being mean to other kids is funny because others are watching and laughing. Know that they're watching and laughing because they're frightened of you. It's really not funny at all. * Get some advice. Know that it's okay to be angry and upset, but it's not okay to take it out on people. When you feel angry, try talking to a grown up or friend you trust instead or call Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868. * Learn to Get Along. Talk to your parent or teacher about helping you find ways to get along with other children. Your school library might have books or games to help you learn how to get along with others and start enjoying life. * Be a Real Leader. You're already a leader, because other people often watch you pick on others. Instead of being mean and nasty, set a real example by being kind and respectful of other kids. Think of how good you'll feel when others follow your lead. (...Everyday Challenges: Children and Bullying continued)